When people annoy us, it could be they remind us of what we don't like about ourselves. Dumb Little Man has a test for determining this and ultimately changing those qualities in yourself.
They suggest examining exactly what is bothering you about the other person. Then, using a technique called projection recall, reflect upon yourself as if the other person were a mirror. Look at that annoying quality in the other person, such as not listening, then reflect upon yourself. They explain:
"To clearly see this as the mirror that it is, replace his/her name or pronoun with your own. For instance, in my example I would write: I am not listening. Ask yourself if this rings true.
... Next ask yourself why you do this. If no answer comes to mind, keep asking. You will become aware of the answer eventually."
Check the link for the rest of the tips on how to use this realization to make people less difficult to deal with.
6 Reasons Why People That Annoy You Can Make You Happy | Dumb Little Man
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